The thoughts in this article take a long range, spiritual viewpoint. In it, I will attempt to skim through some very complex and personal issues. This shouldnt be taken as the "last word" on the subject, or even the first word! Some may read this and throw it down in anger; others may recognize some truth in what I present. Hopefully, it will give some food for thought.
Understanding this overview involves understanding the concepts of Karma. We have each spent many lifetimes of learning and sharing and fighting with other souls who are engrossed in their own lessons. All of us are doing what we must do; what we are obliged to do, in the light of our past actions and involvements. Events taking place on this earth are not unfair; they may feel unfair and look unfair, but that is because the human point of view is so limited.
Most folks come into life without the memory of their past actions. Because of this, things seem random. But they are not random and this is evident, when you begin to remember who you really are: a spiritual being in a physical body, for a time. Every action that we take, in every life, has an effect. It may take awhile to manifest, but it surely will.
In this vein, the idea of "healing" someone can be a big invitation to problems. This concept makes a lot of people uncomfortable, even angry; especially a well meaning person who truly wants to help others. Perhaps you have spent a great deal of time and money becoming proficient in some aspect of the health field. This investment gives you a "vested interest" in whether or not this statement is true for you and what the implications could be: for you and your patient.
I am not saying that there is anything wrong with wanting to help another human being. I also believe that my life is a great gift from God. Since it is a gift, it is my duty to try to maintain my physical body as long as I can, to be of service to others and to have more time to grow spiritually. The desire to help others is a noble and decent thing for any human being to aspire to.
Easing an other's suffering is something that many compassionate people spend their time doing, or wish they could do. A healer may well be the instrument of the Universe in balancing things out, Karmically. A spiritual healer, trained in their field, can have a very positive effect on a person. But, there can be a problem if they get too involved with a patient and perhaps lose their detachment.
Set aside any preconceptions and think about it for a minute. Healers cannot really heal anyone, anyway, only facilitate in that person's healing of themselves. Responsible Healers of all types do their best to figure out what will help a person, and also keep in mind that what they think is best for a person may not actually be the best or even work for that individual. They give it their best shot.
A responsible healer will try not to get attached to the outcome of a particular treatment, even though they will work very hard and use all of their resources to help their patient. They will be on guard not to get sucked into a dependency situation with their patient. This kind of dependency can have a powerful, almost narcotic effect on all persons involved with it.
As to the sick or injured person's needs: We live in the physical plane, for now, and our attachment to it is, for most people, inescapable, in at least some manner. It is not easy to suffer or have to endure the indignities of an illness. It can take over your whole consciousness. It can be hard to spend your time thinking about love and beauty when you are in pain or so worn out that you cannot get out of bed. Hit an average persons hand with a hammer and see what beautiful thoughts spring into their mind! So, obviously, some pain management has to be a consideration. But beyond the pure necessities of dealing with an illness, there is another level.
Try looking at physical problems from a spiritual perspective. Every human is immortal Soul; a spiritual Being housed in a physical vehicle. When this vehicle wears out, you will get another one. When you know this, not just hope this is true, but know it, things slowly start to change. So, you try to deal with your physical needs, but not become obsessed with them. A true healer will sometimes give a person tools that they can use to heal themselves.
Here is another idea. Maybe a person can use a certain illness to grow in some way. When youre going along on your own willful, somewhat destructive, way, the shock of physical pain can really get your attention, when nothing else seems to. Not that this is necessarily the easiest or most pleasant method, but it is effective, at times. Just look at your own life, or the lives of people that you know. You will see what I mean.
I am not saying that this is how it "should" be, rather, this is how it plays out in the physical, most often. Ultimately, I feel that it is important to lives ones life as gracefully as it is possible to do.
If we are arrogant enough to believe that we can "clear" someone of their Karma, "blow away their blocks", "clear their negativity", heal them of their illness or whatever, we may be opening ourselves to experiencing their problems. We may be interfering with their spiritual growth. We may be sharing their Karma.
Prayer is, arguably, the most potent of healers, yet this too can be misused. Prayer can work better than any medicine for about 30% to 45% of people. Sometimes it "heals" someone and sometimes it just puts off the inevitable.
I, personally, never think that prayer for another is suitable, if the person has not asked for it or been offered it and then accepted. It is an invasion. Who is the "pray-er" to say what is "right" and correct for the "pray-ee"? That could be an interference with anothers free will, a definite "no-no" spiritually. Possibly, it would be appropriate to ask for any suitable help to be offered to the person, as it fits in with God's Will for them.
I do pray for people, with their permission. I pray that God's Will, not mine, be done for a person and that they will have the strength to handle whatever that turns out to be. I do not invite people to pray for me to be healed when I am ill--- even when I have been deathly ill. I do invite the prayer I mentioned, for Gods Will to be done, and to send loving thoughts of support towards me. This is a personal choice, of course. Prayer can help us to open to the higher energies so that we can make adjustments.
I used to own a small Wellness Center. I spent everyday, sometimes seven days a week, helping people to feel less discomfort. I see no problem with this, IF you can maintain your detachment to accept whatever the outcome of a particular patients problem is. I tried to stay in a place of facilitation; to act as a helper and a source of comfort for people.
Every time I went in with a person I asked for my ego to be set aside. I did a good job for most of my patients and good results. Once in awhile, in spite of what I knew to be proper, I would get emotionally involved and would desperately want to help someone. I would lose my objectivity and get too absorbed. I couldn't help them and usually would pay for the carelessness with a bout of the flu or even something more serious.
I am not talking about picking up some of the symptoms of a persons illness by touching them. Ask anyone who touches a lot of patients about this. It's a fairly common problem when you do not clear, after each patient and keep your subtle bodies Grounded. they walk out feeling great and you feel drained or worse. This is a symptom of taking on some of someone else's Karma, by interfering with their process, in an inappropriate manner and getting too involved....or maybe by trying to rescue them from something, unsuitably.
The type of detachment that I speak of is done with love and compassion, understanding that each person has their own challenges, problems and pain in their life, and depending on their degree of self-love, their own attachments, etc. I make every effort possible to be compassionate and kind. Sometimes that is all that you can do for a person -- just taking the time to listen to another human being can be a very healing experience, for both of you.
Everyone has their own Karma that they came into this life to deal with and hopefully, resolve. Sometimes, physical pain is a part of this process.
Again, this is a personal choice for each of us. I think that learning compassionate detachment is a big part of spiritual growth. You must decide for yourself: How much are you willing to do? How much are you willing to share?
As I said before, the "savior complex" is a mighty powerful drug. We do have need of healers detached enough to be of help, yet loving enough to care that we are in pain to begin with; people who work with us and understand that for whatever reason, not all "cures" work and understand that if you have a healing, it is granted through them, not by them.
We have need of Healers who respect us as equal souls, here to learn our lessons, just as they are.... and refrain from conscious, manipulative behavior. These are such personal choices, and, like all of life on the physical, come loaded with pitfalls and fumbles. In the end, each of us can only do what we are led----even compelled---- to do.