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Some Spiritual and Psychological
Responsibility Issues in Giving and Receiving
'Psychic Readings'
What's the
responsibility that you take on as a Reader or a Client? Here are a few thing
you need to be aware of, to make sure that you have a positive experience when
getting or giving a Reading.
There are a lot of
“Readers” out there… Some are competent, serious students of a spiritual path,
trying to use their awareness to help others to empower themselves. Some are
well meaning, but inept, “counselors”. But there are the others. Some do it
for the “power” of telling someone what to do. Some do it for the money.
Other people will pick up a deck of cards or take an astrology class, find
that they have some aptitude and then go out and set themselves up in business
giving Readings! It doesn’t matter how “psychic” a person is --- if they have
no clarity, their ability may be entertaining, but is virtually useless.
Also, there is a big difference between a spiritually oriented psychic and a
psychically oriented psychic.
The psychic realms are
fascinating, but will be a dead end for all involved, IF the phenomena is your
only interest. If your interest in the ‘other realms’ leads you closer to God
and closer to developing an ability to give and receive love, then your interest
is in spiritual, rather than psychic development. Your decision to be a
Reader or not… or to consult a Reader or not is a personal one.
And that is not the focus of this article. It’s a discussion best left for
another time. The core of this piece is the accountability and responsibility
that a Reader has in giving the Reading and the client has when reviewing and
considering the information in the Reading.
Responsibility is a major
issue when giving or receiving a Reading. When you give a Reading, you
have a duty to be careful of everything that you say to your client. Obviously
many Readers know this already, but here are a few things to consider that you
may not be aware of.
One of the first things
that you need to understand, whether you are getting or giving a Reading, is
that the person who is receiving it is in an altered state of mind before,
during and immediately after the Reading. Clients are often in a state of high
anxiety when they come in to see a psychic. Many people will only go to see a
Reader if they are having a problem to begin with. Even if that is not the
case, the client is usually filled with the anticipation of the Reading. Either
way, the heightened emotions can cause the client to enter an altered state.
Any intense emotional state will cause this change, not just because they
are about to receive a Reading. The client is then open to what you say in a
way that they would not normally be open. Every word that a person hears in an
altered state is approximately 50 to 100 times more powerful than when heard in
a normal waking state!
Think of that. In this
case, every word said to a person becomes extremely important. Expert con
artists know this and use it to influence their quarry. They make sure that
their intended victim is in an altered state by doing something to excite or
upset them. The body responds to “good” stress and “bad” stress in the same
way, physiologically. The body doesn’t know if you are in an anxious condition
because you are getting married or because you are getting a divorce. It simply
reacts to any intense emotional situation with the appropriate system
responses. When we are having this “flight or fight” reaction, the mind become
very focused and takes in many more details than it would during a normal state.
As a Reader, our words can
have a profound effect on someone, at any time, but this is even more true when
a person is so open and so altered.
Some people think that an
altered state, whatever that is, is something weird and scary - a rare
occurrence. When was the last time you were in an altered state? It is not
just when you get upset, nervous or excited. It happens whenever our senses are
focused on something, (whether or not this is something pleasant) and some or
all of your senses are involved. Everyone goes into an altered state
at least two times a day: when going to sleep and when waking. Research
shows that many people go into these states about 50 (or more) times a day!
For example, why does
someone have a favorite brand of detergent? Actually, most detergents work with
about the same degree of success. Researchers have found that most people have a
favorite brand because they heard about it on TV. The maker of the product used
the knowledge of these altered states to engage one or more of your senses, to
help cement the feeling that their particular soap (or whatever they are
selling) is better. Most people get into an altered state very quickly while
watching TV!
How about when you go to a
Doctor. It is common to hang on every word the doctor says to you. Are we in
an altered state? You bet we are!
It’s also the norm for a
person to hang on every word a Reader says to them, with great anticipation.
If the Reader is nervous, then he or she is also in an altered State. This could
help or hinder them, depending on their abilities to detach and stay clear.
Are you starting to get the picture?
There are even more things
to consider in this area of responsibility.
Spiritually, whenever you
do a Reading for someone, you are taking the chance that you will share their
Karma. This may not sound very attractive to you, and you may wish that this
weren’t possible. But it is possible.
This is not said to scare
anyone. It is said to remind you that when you put out your “shingle” and
advertise that you are a ‘Reader’ you imply that you have some ability to
receive insight into a problem; that you have some way of getting information
that will help the client - and that you can help them in some way.
You bear a direct
responsibility for every word said, and to some degree, for how the
person takes what is said, depending on your intent. Do you have the skills
necessary to help a person deal with the issues that come up for them? Or are
they left to go home and work it out for themselves? Did you set aside
your ego, or did you have a great time showing someone how wise and psychic you
are?
As a responsible Reader,
we each need to be very careful to drop our own attachments and / or
preconceived notions. There is a need to set aside the ego and to come from a
place of unconditional love for the Soul sitting across from you. That Soul is
going through their own journey home to God, and doing the best job of it that
they can do, just as you are. Even when one sees something coming up for the
client, there is always a need to explain to them and to remind them about their
own free will in how they approach the situation.
A Reading is a
probability, not a certainty. It is important to be honest, but there are
Readers who are very psychic and are able to “open the client up like a can
opener.” But, again, if they have nothing in place to help the person begin to
deal with the feelings and issues that they have brought out into the open, is
that responsible? There is no doubt that this Reader has a powerful psychic
ability, but are they spiritual? Are they kind?
On the other hand, there
is the responsibility that the client who asks for a Reading must
bear. Most Readers have probably had a client come to them who is about to do
something that they know could turn their lives upside down, and they want to
have someone validate it for them. Anything the Reader says is fitted into
their own preconceived ideas of what they want to hear. That's the Client's
responsibility.
For instance, a woman, who
was thinking seriously about having an extramarital affair went to a psychic.
She was looking for and hoping to find someone to condone her actions by telling
her something to “absolve” her of her responsibility. She wanted to hear that
it was “fate”, and that the strong Karmic connection made the contemplated
affair “an inevitability.” She wanted someone to tell her that the connection
was so strong between them that it was okay to walk away from her family to play
the scene out. It’s not anyone’s job to judge what this woman does, I’m not
implying that. But is it responsible to tell her “full speed ahead?”
It is up to her what she
decides to do. The Reader is not responsible for her decision unless he or she
inserts themselves into the picture by trying to influence her. Some Readers
could not resist the urge to give advice on this subject!
A spiritually oriented
Reader will back his or her ego out of the equation and will give her some
things to think about on both sides of the coin, with the intent of helping her
to make an informed, balanced decision. That Reader will also take some time
listen to the client. Just being there to listen, without trying to impress the
client as to how much the Reader knows and how ‘wise’ the Reader is, might be
the most appropriate thing a Reader could do in a lot of situations. Being
responsible can include resisting the urge to ‘fix’ everything. Not everything
can be ‘fixed’ - or needs to be.
Recently, a fairly
well-known Psychic told me that she told a Client “Well, I can see that you will
meet someone within the next two years and when you do, you will feel such a
connection that you must leave everything in your life and go with them,
even though no one around you will understand.”
This is a powerful statement and notice how it is phrased -- like a command.
“You will feel…” A person in an altered state will accept this
statement as a command and because of that, may feel a strong desire to fulfill
it.
The woman told me this to impress me - and it did, but not the way that she
thought it would. This is just plain scary.
If it comes to pass, did
it happen because it was “meant to” or because the Reader gave such a strong
suggestion for it to happen? Or is it a mixture of the two? Who knows? But
would you want to be that Reader… or that Client?
Let’s suppose that you
were the person who went to this Reader. Suppose you were going through a
period of time in your marriage where you didn’t feel as close to your spouse as
you used to. During this period of dissatisfaction you meet someone that you do
have a Karmic connection to. There is a connection between you because
of the Karma. You remember the Reader’s prediction, and it seems to fit.
I’ll leave it up to you what could well happen next.
Where is the client’s
responsibility in this situation? The client needs to take responsibility for
their actions. They need to weigh the consequences of their actions very
carefully and not base everything on some Reading they received - or use it as
an excuse to do something they wanted to do anyway... No matter what the Reading
said might happen, you have the Free Will - and a brain to figure out whether
it’s a positive move to do - or not do - what was suggested. Maybe the Reading
predicted the strong possibility that this kind of energy was going to enter
your life, but you can decide what the best thing for you when it does. Yes, the
circumstance could come about, but it’s your choice how to act upon it.
All Readings are based on
probabilities. Only probabilities. That means that whatever the Reader “sees”
for you, will be the most probable events for that moment in time. That doesn’t
mean that anything is set in concrete. In fact, one of the most useful things
that could come from a Reading is the knowledge of what might happen, if
you do nothing to change your behavior or circumstances. If you like what is
coming down the road at you, that’s great - leave things alone.
If you don’t like it, change your behavior and / or circumstances and change the
outcome.
The outcome of almost anything predicted can be modified by things that are well
within your ability to change.
Also, lots of things can change just because you have some insight into them.
This is not magic, it's the way life works.
If what a Reader says to
you doesn’t ring true, don’t listen to them. Know that the psychic
Reader is just a person and can be wrong. No one can be right every time. Use
your common sense. Only you have the power to change your life, no one can
influence you, unless you allow them to do so. It’s all up to you. Understand
that you are going to be in an altered state when you receive a Reading and
allow for that. A good Reader will know this, allow for this, and be gentle,
kind and loving.
This discussion and the
examples could go on and on.
Perhaps it comes down to
this: a Reading is a shared responsibility between the Reader and Client.
Consider this well, before you start doing Readings and / or before going to a
Reader for your answers.
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